THE TUESDAY GIRL: A MEMOIR is now available on Amazon as an ebook. Other formats and platforms coming soon!
Even in your late 40s, you can still find a happily-ever-after, just maybe not the way you’ve read about in books.
THE TUESDAY GIRL follows the author’s three-year journey of self-discovery while she heals from past relationships, figures out what she wants, and moves on with her life, creating something bold and beautiful along the way.
Tanya Eby is a narrator and has performed over 1,100 audiobooks over her two-decade career. Half of her narrations have been of romance novels. You’d think with narrating all these romance titles, she’d have some deeper insight into romantic relationships. Yeah. Not so much.
In 2020, while the world is in lockdown, the author is starting over. Again. She leaves marriage number two and vows that she’s going to live a healthy and authentic life.
Told primarily through conversations, THE TUESDAY GIRL is raw, witty, emotional, and ultimately inspirational. Tanya takes the reader on intimate dates, walks with friends, and conversations with people in her life. She falls in love with someone who she is certain is different from anyone she’s ever met, only to discover that he is a conman. Through it all, she relies on her friend Erin and learns that romance isn’t something that just happens in books: it’s something that runs throughout your own life.
THE TUESDAY GIRL : A MEMOIR will generate discussion. Consider hosting a book club to talk about the relationships, issues, and whatever else you feel like after reading the piece. Here are some sample questions:
1) What makes a good relationship? What makes a good friendship?
2) Is a wife obligated to stay with a husband if the marriage isn’t good? What about if she feels her children are threatened?
3) What set the author up to repeat dysfunctional relationships?
4) At times, it can be painful to see the author willfully ignore red flags with Ryan. Why do you think she did that?
5) In online dating, a person should protect themselves. How do you enter a relationship with an open heart and vulnerability, but still take care of yourself?
6) What do you think of the relationship between Erin and the author?
7) Erin talks about the piece of paper on the floor as being an act of intimacy. What does she mean by that?
8) What about the book resonated with you? Angered you? What did you have a strong emotional reaction to?
9) Why do you think it was so liberating to the author to hang a simple picture?
10) What characters did you relate to in the piece?
Have questions for Tanya? Please email her at tanya@tanyaeby.com . She’s also open to Zooming in on some bookclub meetings. Ask her!
READER REVIEWS
I’m adding real reader reviews here. I’ll post anonymously unless you share with me that you’d like to have your name here. Thank you to everyone who’s read the piece, shared it, commented about it, etc.
“I finished your Memoir this morning and I just have to tell you it is fantastic!! That's not really the best word for it either - maybe more like, meaningful, gripping, heartbreaking and the way it ends (but also doesn't end) is so, so good. Even though I knew the story beforehand somewhat, it still hooked me and I was totally taken in by it. Your writing is so good. I like how it's never talking "above" the reader, you know? Like sometimes a writer's writing is so self-conscious that it distracts me from the actual story because I know that the writer is more concerned about the style of the writing than the substance of the story. Anyway, that's why I love Stephen King so much (because he just draws you in with good writing and you get wrapped up in the story like a blanket) and that is exactly what I love about your writing too!!”
“I just finished Tanya’s memoir and it is amazing! I reached that joyful tipping point where you don’t want to put the book down even though it’s 2 hours past your bedtime very early in the book. I read a lot, a lot of romances and thrillers and memoirs, and this one really resonated with me on so many levels. Not just knowing and loving Tanya as a person, but as a woman and a human continuously learning about life and love and self-worth and boundaries. Please give it a go!”
“You drew me in with the gorgeous cover and then the first sentence, and I couldn’t stop reading it. Even though I knew some of the story, I wanted to find out what happened. Your resilience and determination to build the life you want and deserve are inspiring!”
“I'm not sure I can think of anybody who has more insight into the human heart or can translate it better than Tanya Eby - I always love reading her blogs and am very excited to read her new memoir. Her writing is raw and real, and I always leave reading it feeling more connected to and having a better understand of what it means to be human. Check out the excerpt or her blog and you will immediately see what I mean.”
“I stayed up too late to finish the book, and I hope you don’t mind me saying that I’m glad I didn’t wait for the audio. I think it would have been shattering to hear you speak it. And I think this book will help many people, however they choose to read it.”
“I got your book in the mail yesterday, I couldn’t stop looking at the cover…I started reading it last night & again first thing this morning. Fuck, it’s good. Now I’m sitting in bed crying at 6:30am while reading & drinking tea.”
“I have read The Tuesday Girl. I picked it up Thursday afternoon and finished it last night, I didn't want to put it down. Because I am an Eby Fangirl and have been following your blog since before we knew each other at all, it was like watching a slow reveal of the big picture, the expanded details of which your blogs, posts and articles were only glimpses.”
“This memoir really captures what it is to start over as a woman in mid life who is still longing for love, passion, sex and a full exciting life. It's frank - the author takes a good long look in the mirror and is so honest about marriage, sex, lies, love, family, parents. And its also funny, human, real and hopeful.. I read this on a flight and when I landed, I was anxious to get to the hotel where I could pour a glass of wine and finish reading. Its a 'cant put it down' kinda book.”
"I hope anyone who has ever blamed a victim of abuse reads this book."
“Touching, truthful, hilarious, and poignant. This is a must read!”
“I loved this book. It reads like fiction, but it’s truthful and raw at the same time. I couldn’t put it down. So many of us have been taught to keep our feelings quiet. Don’t make a scene. Don’t let the neighbors hear. Put on a happy face no matter what is going on inside. I think it takes a lot of courage to be so open for all the world to see. And it’s also comforting to know that we can be both successful and struggling at the same time and that’s what it means to be human.”
"This morning I read your book. I couldn't put it down. And when I finished I knew I wanted to tell you what I thought and felt, but I couldn't even figure it out. I still haven't. Not really.
I felt rage. I felt hopeless. I ached for the You that was going through this, and for the Me that went through my own version of it. But boy, did l rage.
But I didn't just rage. I wept a little bit for the times that will come where we have a bit of a wobble. And I cheered for the women we became, for the women we continue to become, for the Erin's in our lives who are such badasses."
“I related so much to this book except I had amazing parents.
I laughed and cried as I listened. I've been betrayed so many times too. I was and still am being gaslighted.
Tanya talks about all the romance books she's narrated and wants a love like that!
I'm not a narrator but listened to hundreds of romance novels and I feel the same way.
I'm invisible in my home. No sex, no encouragement or compliments.
After listening to this book
I'm going to stop doubting myself and putting myself down and just focus on myself.
Thank you, Tanya, for opening up your heart to help others like myself.
I will no longer be a Tuesday girl.”
“THE TUESDAY GIRL is a trifecta of a book: a memoir that reads like a romance and seeps into you like a self-help talisman. With every deep dive Eby takes, you feel seen in all the ways you accepted less than you deserved. And then resurface with her, resplendent in all the ways that honouring the love you deserve makes you stronger.”
"⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
To start, a word of caution: don’t read this book while grabbing a bite for lunch, expecting to put it down after perusing a couple of chapters. Your quick lunch will turn into an extended one, while you keep flipping pages, thinking, “But I just need to see what happens next—“
Most of Tanya’s journey doesn’t look like mine—and that’s what I loved about it. In this memoir, I didn’t just get to know the author better, I got to know humanity better. It was odd and lovely to me how much her story resonated with me, even when it was so different from my own.
This is a book that celebrates twisting paths, that acknowledges that a journey that involves switchbacks and cliffs can still be brave and beautiful.
A memoir like this begs for certain descriptors: unflinching, honest, bittersweet. And while those are all apt, I’d like to stick a simpler label on it: it’s *good*. Very, very good."