Question # 2: For the Lonelyhearts (answered by Pepper)

QUESTION #2 I asked for questions on love and did anyone need advice. An artist named Tim responded with a comment that if only he could find love, he’d ask for advice on it. I decided to let Pepper Wellington have a crack at it since she seems to know a thing or two about love. Or at least making love.



Tim, dear. Can you see my face? It’s all pinched and unhappy looking. You know why? Because I haven’t had an orgasm in hours. Hours I tell you! And just so you know, I am a happily single woman. I am happy because I know that to make my face relax. I just have an orgasm and voila! Instant facelift. And to have an orgasm, I don’t need anyone else to help me do it. I can do it myself. Yes. I’m talking about masturbation. I do this and if you don’t you should…because nothing is as attractive as the afterglow of a sexually satisfied person. Not to belittle your feelings of loneliness. I’m only trying to make you laugh. Loneliness is real, and dark, and debilitating. And I think it’s perfectly natural to want to find a partner and to share your life with. It’s good. My only concern for you…my only suggestion then…is if you can live your life authentically, if you can focus on things that you have and what makes you happy, then you will naturally attract a partner to you.

No advice makes loneliness better…but I speak from experience when I say that when I am satisfied with myself and my life and my choices…those are the times that I have the most lovers approach me. Sometimes I take them on, and some times I don’t. At these times, I find I don’t NEED to take anyone on...and that's the difference.

It’s a hard place to get to, I know.

For now, start acting like you’re worth being loved even if you don’t feel that way. Pretend that you are. Puff out your chest. Walk around self-satisfied. Pretned it until you do feel it...because you are worth being loved, having love, sharing love, and having an orgasm that isn't self-inflicted. (Although those have their place too.)

And if there are any single ladies looking for an artistic man, well, here’s his Twitter feed. Follow him there.

I truly believe that everyone can find love. I don’t know if I believe there is one perfect person for each individual, but I do believe that love is possible. The more that you believe in this, the more you’ll attract love into your life. And I know you've probably heard that a hundred times...that doesn't stop it from being true.

Until then, drink a glass of wine and read up on the Kama Sutra. Good study never hurt anyone…especially in the bedroom.

In love and light, Pepper